Thursday, May 29, 2008

I'm behind in blogging!

Now that THAT is out in the open.....

This past weekend was full of excitement. Josiah's family (most of them) came out to Arizona to spend Memorial Day weekend reconnecting with each other. From California, Colorado, & Kentucky. His older sister, Jenna, has a friend who lives here and was going to be out of town for the weekend, and offered her house as a place to gather to spend time together. I'm not sure if her friend realizes how much that meant to most of us.

Shortly before I started blogging, I began having these feelings of sadness, for the fact that I didn't know any of my husband's family very well. A good portion of them moved away within our first year of marriage. Since then, I've had thoughts that many of them hadn't gotten a chance to get to know me very well and decided from what they did know, that I didn't fit the image of what they thought should be married to their brother/son. As much as Josiah would try to convince me otherwise, I just couldn't see how he could be right. I tend to lack certain social skills so I don't really put myself out there.

When the whole blogging thing came into the picture, I was still just reading everyone's and not leaving comments. I was known as "a blog stalker". That was when I really found myself being sad that I didn't know them very well. I mean, here I was getting to know them a little via their blogs, but still, they weren't getting a chance to know me, and that for whatever reason just really made me sad. I remember one day actually being in tears over it. I longed for a relationship with my in-laws. Something that so many people get to have and I think take for granted. I've always thought that I was lucky because I married into such an amazing family. Well finally my mil posted on her blog that all of her children (and children-in-law) needed to start blogging. I think that was about the first time that I left a comment and said "here I am!" Ever since then, I've felt connected and have loved getting to know them (atleast the one's who blog) better! Once I found out that everyone was coming into town, I was overjoyed! There were new spouses and a couple new nieces and nephews that I hadn't met. Mostly I was just excited to be able to spend some time with these people and get to know them over again, in real life!

What a diverse family they are but still so much love goes around. Over the 10+ years that Josiah and I have been married, I've suggested many times that he call his siblings or parents, or that we go and visit some of them here or there. I have always been very close to my family and so it wasn't easy for me to grasp why he wouldn't want to just pick up the phone to say "hey" or take a couple days to go and visit. I mean, I realize trips like that need to be planned, especially when saving money isn't our best quality as a couple. There were some opened wounds there still though from things that happened in the past. I often suggested he just let them go, but it was easier for me to say than for him to do. Especially since I didn't have to live through them. I'm not 100% sure what his thoughts and feelings were as this family reunion was approaching. I do know however, that he enjoyed every minute that he got to spend with his family. I was a little surprised but very happy to hear him suggest that we all plan to get together every year. It seemed as though each of his siblings that were there, and his mom too of course, thought it would be a great idea. I already can't wait for the next one! We love you all so much! Hopefully any negative feelings that were brought to the surface over this past weekend will be let go.

And of course, I spent too much time enjoying the time that was being spent with everyone, to take the time to take more pictures! But here are a few that I got, which I think are different from some that other's got....









Until next time...

7 comments:

Leslie said...

I know you were a little nervous about the whole weekend and I am really glad that Josiah and yourself enjoyed the time you spent with his family. I have enjoyed looking at all the photos, maybe more then I should have.

I think josiah has a great family and they (well those who's bloggs I stalk) are very intertaining!!

Andevery family has its own qwerks and thats what makes life interesting. If we were all the same and perfect, there would be no purpose for us here on earth.

That's my two or three cents!!

Jenna Consolo said...

Sarah! You are a delight! I LOVED getting to know you better. I've always adored you and wished we could raise our families closer to each other. Blogs have been a blessing for us all, haven't they? I can't wait to see you guys again. And I love the pic of Siah and Grandmom. Love you!

Saint Holiday said...

Sarah!
You are the very best. That's my studied opinion, arrived at after much empirical investigation. Put me down as a reference on your resume. Don't just say, "References will be provided upon request." No need for that. Instead, say, "Saint Holiday is my main reference." The Old One knows a thing or two about what goes into the recipe for a great woman. You have all the ingredients, plus some raisins and chocolate chips thrown in for extra goodness. I missed every one of you last weekend, terribly. But I just could not manage to get my emotions in order. I am such a chaos of love, no one would understand. Be kind to yourself. I love you.

Love,
The Father-Out-of-Law

Abby said...

Sarah! Hey, I love you. I felt like I didn't know you (and you didn't want us to know you) before this whole blog thing. Being shy is silly. Especially in our family. It was fantastically wonderful to see all of you! Give Siah and the babies big hugs from me and make him give you one back. :)

Jeremy said...

My blog posts are soooo nerdy compared to the real life stuff you, Leslie and others put out there. I am officially "nerding" myself here. Oh well, I guess that is what makes me ME! I was excited for you that you were able to get together with Josiah's family and knew how important it was to you. As we get old, these kinds of get togethers are the stuff that Hollywood make movies about and we all tend to just remember the good times rather than dwell on the sour notes because our brains start to fail and probably mostly we just want to look forward to future repeats of the great moments in life. PS - I love run on sentences. And Yes I am weird, thanks for asking. hehe.

idahohubers said...

Looks like you guys made a lot of memories! I'm missing my fam a TON lately. I love the knitting circle with grandma - how cute! And the pool looks soooo inviting with that awesome slide. I'm glad you had a good time with the in-laws :)

YogaNana said...

Aww, Sarah, it was wonderful to visit some more in real life, especially now that I know you better through blogging.

And I'm supremely grateful to Blogger for giving us all a place to hang out, no matter where we are and no matter when we've got some time. Yay, Blogger!

And here's to next year!